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I am not the ulitimate authority, in fact far from it. If you ask Chaitali she will perhaps roll on the floor with laughter hearing that I have had the audacity to pen down a few words on the topic. But all the same it's a free world and here I go.

The other day a facebook friend - Indira commented that "silence is the best method of eloquence". The statement has to be taken in its spirit and that's quite true. A lot of times we blurt out words that has drastic effects and we do it unknowingly. The other day in a get together a lady had come who manages a play school. When the topic of discussion was playschool somebody mentioned that the school managed by this lady was the best in Kuwait. Immediately another person commented and expressed his full disagreement in front of the lady. Now that's what this piece is all about. How not to put your foot in the mouth? The worst is perhaps when you don't even realize that the deed was done.

A lot of times it could happen with gifts. You gift something to X and then Y transfers the same to Z. Then X and Z discover about the sequence of actions. Disaster ---- and imagine the bad perceptions this creates!!

Would you open a door to a lady or would you stand up when a lady enters the room or perhaps comes and speaks to you at your desk? Points to ponder...while you might also say...what the hell, this is utter nonsense!!

Discussing food is a great topic. I have increasingly found that Indian vegetarians are quite non tolerant in the depths of their mind about non-vegetarians. Mind you this is also true about a lot of sub continent non-vegetarians when they come across food habits say of a Chinese or Korean. The facial gestures or body language that is expressed by a typical Indian vegetarian when they see or hear about non-vegetarian stuff is something that I absolutely dislike and abhor.

It could be surprising to many, but I regularly watch Big Boss, the Indian version of the reality program Big Brother. There’s many a situation happening in that house that happens in office too. It’s more complex in an office with so many people in a close group and let me tell you that men perhaps gossip equally or more than women!! So misrepresentations are the order of the day and then when you get caught at it's nothing but a series of disasters. Sphere: Related Content

Misplaced sympathies

Nalini has broken her fast!! Not that I am too concerned with Nalini eating or not while in jail. I have no objections to the fact that her death penalty was revoked. But I do have objections if she is released from prison. The law needs to decide on that and we will abide by our law. She had killed our Prime Minister-Rajiv Gandhi(good or bad) and she was caught. That's it.

This has got nothing to do with Indians killing Tamils in Srilanka or all such related theories. Sometimes we just confuse issues and misplace our sympathies!! Sphere: Related Content

Q8 - Arbit Comments

The climate is changing. The evenings are warm all right but it’s not hot. Give or take another month and the evenings will be extremely pleasant. A walk by the sea would be a good idea, not that you should not go now.

Durga Puja is approaching and there is a local association that does a hush hush affair that I am told everybody knows about. I believe there are some restrictions on idol worship, et al but I am not sure of the same. As usual there are a couple of prominent churches and therefore I believe there is tolerance. But typically it could always be a case of selective tolerance!!

The Ramadan just about got over and that would brought an end to the relaxed office hours. We are not complaining though!! Sphere: Related Content

Office near Home? (Linked in Q)

Office near home could have the following benefits:

1. Reduce stressful travel time and allows your mind to be more healthy and productive.
2. Contribute to lowering pollution since you would be travelling less.
3. Work time and home time...both are important constituents of the day and having an office near home helps maintain a good balance.

On the lighter side:
1. You could go back home for a short siesta to be fresh for the long haul.
2. Go back home for fresh food rather than stale food packed early in the morning and also avoid junk food in office or vicinity. The best would be to have a flexi time HOME office and these days inceasingly thats the way to go!! Sphere: Related Content

Do you feel God is Partial when Luck seems to work better than hard work? (Linked In Q)

God's way of giving is different and need not be a one to one incident based. So while you would help "A" perhaps you would get back from "B". I for one do not expect a direct return of favor.

The concept of a return favor is not a good thing to pursue. If things happen to you due to a direct fall out its good for you...if it's not..something better is destined. Coming to LUCK therefore...we do not have the full insider information on the "LUCKY ONE". He must have done or doing some other good KARMA for him to get rewarded from unexpected quarters Sphere: Related Content

Time Killing or Killing Times

The family is not here and it's an understatement when I say that I miss them. The TV Channels are available but since I like watching movies end to end I am just not being able to figure out when a movie would start. I know it's a game of patience but that's how it is.

The saving grace is that I have a host of movies on my laptop and that's under my control. I have also hooked up the audio system to my PC for hearing my MP3 collection loud and clear.

I have been to a couple of malls but as usual they are all the same and therefore are not of interest. It's too hot outside for a casual evening walk too. What should we do out here?

Yesterday I connected with a Bengali Cultural Society and they have 20000 questions for me to become a member. Ridiculously insane!!

From today I have planned to go to the Gym. While time will perhaps pass, a bit of fat would also reduce. That's finally something positive given the state that I am in. By the way, I forgot to mention that I am in Kuwait now!! Sphere: Related Content

Death

Last month saw two deaths amongst family and friends. A very dear friend was suffering from advanced liver cancer for the last one year or so and finally she found her release last month. Then there was this dear Aunt who passed away last week after a prolonged period of illness.

I still do not how to deal with death, in the sense that there is this perpetual conflict of emotions, behavior, thoughts being in control, etc. Most often than not I am absolutely lost with words to be used for consoling or offering my sympathies. I wonder if mere presence works instead of a barrage of words, or a hug perhaps. If I am in the vicinity of the situation, I try and get involved and get busy with work…and typically there is always a lot to be done. I try and hide my emotions, but these days I am finding it difficult to control them. Sphere: Related Content